Weddings are supposed to be incredibly happy times, even though one or two things can go wrong. But would you ever imagine that “thing” being the bride or groom’s parents? Well, that’s exactly what’s in store for you today if you take a look at these stories. If you’d like to be entertained and horrified by parents who ruined their children’s weddings, keep reading.
50. It Was Her Wedding, Not Mine
Oh, where to begin. I got engaged and my mother barely acted excited about it. I was trying to figure out what I wanted my wedding to look like and I called her to ask for her to HELP me plan it. Well, what she heard was, “This is going to be your third wedding, Mom, and I want you to do everything and completely disregard everything I want or say.” She paid for everything, which made me feel like I had no say or right to voice my opinion at all. She made me feel guilty about getting married outside rather than in a church, she rented and bought things without consulting me first, we had a huge knock-down-drag-out fight about the location of my reception and she “won” because she made me feel like the worst human being in the world.
We had one of her friends, who was not a professional, take my photos and another friend make my cake; it was UGLY and not at all what I wanted. If I tried to change anything, she made me feel extremely guilty about it, so nothing in my wedding was what I wanted. She even guilted me into getting the dress she thought looked best in. I looked great but it wasn’t what I wanted. I had a veil when I didn’t want one because her equally narcissistic friend just bought it for me “as a wedding present,” without asking me first. She bought my wedding jewelry without asking, she took my wedding flowers after the reception to use in her own crafting project. So basically, I didn’t even have a wedding; my mother had her third wedding, except I was the one getting hitched. It was the biggest day of my life and she ruined it.
49. What Didn’t She Do?
My mom did a lot to ruin my wedding and she succeeded. She made a scene at my rehearsal dinner resulting in the party having to be stalled for 20 minutes and a friend having to bring me some medication in the bathroom so I’d stop shaking. She upset me so much, that when my husband and I went our separate ways that night before the wedding, I ended up calling him at 1 am begging him to come home so I wouldn’t be alone.
On the day of the wedding, she made a screaming scene during the signing of the ketubbah, resulting in her having to be dragged out of the room to calm down, delaying yet another important event with the wedding. During the father-daughter dance, I saw out of the corner of my eye her being dragged out of the reception (again) because she was yelling at somebody. She did not approach me at all until the reception was practically over, and did not apologize for the scenes she caused. When my husband and I left to go to Las Vegas for our mini-moon she left me a screaming voicemail about what happened at the wedding, ending it with, “I hate your husband!! I hate him and you can tell him I said it!”
48. A Nice Gesture Turned Bad
My sister got pregnant while she was engaged. My mom did not want grandchildren born out of wedlock, so to the altar it was. My mom paid for everything, which seemed nice until we realized the whole thing only cost $1,000. How, you ask? Well, my sister had to use my aunt’s wedding gown, which didn’t fit properly due to her being pregnant. Her flowers came from the local grocery store because my sister was told she didn’t deserve anything better. The ceremony was held on the beach as mother didn’t want to rent a hall- she didn’t want anyone to see her unwed pregnant daughter trying to pull off a church wedding. And the dinner after was at our mother’s favorite restaurant- my sister didn’t even know where it was until the actual dinner.
There were 20 people at the dinner, ALL of which were either my stepfather’s family or my mother’s friends. Some of the guests were people my sister had never even met. My sister was not allowed any friends and when she complained about it, she was bashed and called names. So my sister had one friend at the wedding and no friends at the dinner. The groom had no friends or family there because his parents were dirt poor and couldn’t help pay, so he had no say in ANYTHING.
47. She Wants Me All to Herself
Before the wedding, my mom carried on about how she was looking forward to the wedding so we could finally get a lot of quality mother-daughter alone time and was super pissed when that didn’t happen. She told me that she was glad, “I finally found a better family that I had wanted all these years” because my in-laws were wealthier than her.
At my wedding, she got huffy when I talked to other people that weren’t her, insulted my table decorations, said my husband and I were braggarts for traveling to other countries, and got angry when I wouldn’t drop what I was doing during the reception to phone family members who couldn’t make it. Most of the parents/family went inside when the younger people started dancing but she just sat at a table alone glaring at me and making bored faces. What hurts the most is what I see other parents doing that I didn’t get. My mom never complimented my dress, never told me I looked good, never congratulated me, instead it was all about her.
46. The Complete Upheaval
Three weeks before my wedding, my mother begged me to reschedule it to meet her schedule. I did, causing us some extra expense and my out-of-town friends some issues.
After all that drama, the day of the wedding finally came. And you know what? My mother didn’t bother to show up anyway.
45. She Almost Destroyed My Dress
My future MIL is very upset about our destination wedding. She came over yesterday, theoretically to see our new house, but instead offered the following criticisms: she hated my engagement ring, thought our house was an extravagant display of wealth and just “wasn’t us” and that I was getting fat, while bragging about her diet and how chic and slenderizing her mother-of-the-bride dress is. This delightful conversation was interrupted by my fiancee asking me to help him put a bed in the spare guest room, so I left my future MIL to her own devices and Netflix while I helped. About 40 minutes into the assembly, I went to go take a bathroom break and headed into the master bedroom and what do I find but my future MIL struggling to yank my wedding dress over her head, BUT IT WAS STUCK. I blurted out “what the hell?!” and she immediately started stammering, “Oh my God! OH MY GOD! OH, GOD!”
At that point my number one concern was her tearing the sheer backing of my dress so I rushed over to help her. It was all for not as she managed to scratch her way through the back of the dress and completely destroy the sheer material. She burst the side zipper of the dress and got a dirty footprint on the train. I asked her, as soon as I got her out of the dress (with HUGE amounts of disgust as she was wearing no underwear), what the HELL she was thinking. She responded that she was just trying to make sure the dress would fit me, because if the dress fit her, then it absolutely fit me too. If it didn’t fit her, then I obviously had some work to do. Nevermind that I just had my final fitting and it had fit like a glove. My future fiance was very disturbed by what happened. I’m also disturbed, mostly because I doubt she was trying to just try on the dress for funsies; there was a bouquet of dried flowers on the bed that wasn’t there before. I think the woman was actually trying to pretend she was the bride, which for so many reasons, is so wrong.
44. She Wanted My Ring
We ended up eloping. A lot of events took place, mostly involving my mother, that caused me to make that decision. Our wedding rings are a custom matching set. They took a while to craft and the diamond is from my grandmother’s engagement ring. My grandfather gave me the diamond with the hope that it would stay in the family. I just fell in love with the idea of telling future grandchildren the history of my ring and even passing it on to them.
We used the diamond ring as the wedding ring and I wore a wedding band for my engagement ring. My mother somehow found out the worth of the diamond and called me up. She said she was furious that I had her mother’s ring and wanted it back to have something to remember her by. She told me she was prepared to get a lawyer if needed. I tried to explain to her that the diamond was already part of my wedding ring. She said she didn’t care, just give her what I had. I found out the same day from a family member that she was actually planning on pawning the ring for some quick cash. This is the day I went and eloped.
43. She Made Her Own Changes
My mother went to all the vendors and changed everything about two weeks before the wedding. She basically told them she was paying for the wedding (she wasn’t) and demanded to see what I’d ordered. She then canceled the order and gave them a new one; what she “thought” I should have. She had to drive 30 miles to do this. And she didn’t know where I’d ordered things, but it was a fairly small town so she just went from shop to shop asking if they had an order for me.
Some of the vendors called me to verify; those I was able to fix. Some did not. In fact, when the flowers showed up for the wedding, they were horrible and not at all what I’d picked out. There was a little saving grace with the flowers, though. All my bridesmaids knew what I’d picked and they were horrified at what got delivered. I was so shocked and upset I forgot to save face. I just told them my mother had changed them behind my back. And of course, the word spread quickly. By the time I walked down the aisle, half the guests were looking at her like she was the devil’s scum.
42. She Criticized Everything
It was Friday, the night before the wedding me and the whole wedding party took 8 hours to set everything up. My soon-to-be sister-in-law had spent hours weaving flowers into three structures that were to be behind where we get married. My mom walked in and said to me in front of everyone. “That looks really tacky with three. You should take two away.”I then told her “it’s my wedding and it’s not tacky. I wanted it that way and I like it.”
My mom then called me a bunch of names and stormed out of the church. About 40 minutes, later the pastor of the church came to find me. He said I needed to contain my mother because she was going from vendor to vendor bashing me; that’s not something a bride wants to hear the night before her wedding. After the wedding, I had a friend who could not stay for the reception and had told me she was leaving early prior. When we walked into the reception, my mom barged through the door yelling, “Took you long enough to take pictures! Your guests are so bored that they are leaving.” Then during the reception, she was yelling at the caterer because there wasn’t butter on the tables. She couldn’t handle all the attention on me and it almost made her head blow up.
41. She Tried to Get Into my Head
She had nothing to do with the planning because she had been the mother of the bride twice before and told me to not ask for help. My MIL was very supportive and helpful and my mother saw that as a slight against her. She showed up at my shower and was pouty and made sarcastic insults towards me to all my new in-laws. During our engagement, she kept making comments about my husband breaking it off (I had a previous broken engagement so this was particularly hurtful).
My sister was my maid of honor and my mom was awful to her whenever she did something for the wedding; I had to stop asking her for help. Right before the wedding day, my mother decided she was walking me down the aisle. I didn’t want her to but didn’t know how to say no. We were lined up, bridesmaids were down the aisle and she said, “your fiance looks too nervous and it’s not too late; the door is right there and you should leave.”
40. She Took Complete Control
My mom had something to say about every part of the wedding. She pretty much made it her own wedding 4.0 (she’s been married three times) and to some degree, I let her because it was easier than fighting. These are the things she did: She tried to bribe us into eloping because and I quote, “I don’t want to have to deal with the drama of you getting married.” She offered to buy my dream dress, and then ordered it several sizes too small so I would lose weight. I lost 50 lbs, but never could fit into it. I ended up buying a different dress off a clearance rack a week before the wedding. Then she canceled my order for invitations and then ordered individual stationery that she liked.
As if that wasn’t enough. She talked the stylist (her friend) into doing her hair first, therefore, my hair wasn’t finished in time. We ended up doing a modified version, which I hated. She bought me a necklace for the wedding, and then demanded it back after the reception as she felt it would look better on her. The piece de resistance was when she demanded that I pay every cent back when the marriage fell apart.
39. She Wanted to Be Served By Me!
Ok, here we go. I have a narcissist for a mom. She wanted to wear a white gown to my wedding. She never got married and said it was the least I could do to help her feel important. She left the ceremony and missed the pictures. At the reception, we had a buffet. She HAD to be waited on…by me. She refused food that I did not bring her myself. She cornered me and demanded I make her coffee right NOW.
She started badmouthing my in-laws for not approaching her. They knew about her. They knew she was crazy. They avoided her. I don’t blame them, so she badmouthed them loudly. She eventually walked off with a bottle of bubbly gifted to us by friends and left hours early. She did not speak to me for three weeks. When she did, she demanded an apology for ruining “her” wedding. She demanded this for many months and hung up on me when I refused.
38. Two Brides, One Wedding
Most soon-to-be-married folks worry about their weddings: food, flowers etc. Knowing what my mother was like, I worried about her behavior.
Obviously she wore white (just like me – making for two brides), arrived in a limo, gave a long toast and had an emergency during the reception.
37. She Was Doing Too Much
Well, there was the fake-fainting spells for attention and the pretend heat exhaustion while pausing to count how many gullible fools were fawning over her.
The kicker was her trying to grab my new husband’s butt the whole time we were getting the photos done. My mom can’t let me have a moment without making it all about her.
36. She Got What Was Coming to Her
I went to a wedding where someone “accidentally” spilled wine on a mother-in-law who wore white to her kid’s wedding. I don’t think the MIL said anything and just showed up in it while the bride was getting ready.
So someone spilled red wine on her pearly white dress and nasty mother-in-law got to wear something more appropriate. It was amazing.
35. She Wanted to be the Maid Of Honor
My mom insisted that she be my matron of honor. She said I had promised her when I was 16 years old, which was 10 years ago.
She was furious when I chose someone else and then continually criticized her for not really being a good friend. Really?
34. Because of A Compliment
My mom refused to talk to me at my wedding. I later found out that she was mad because I didn’t tell her that she looked pretty.
In the months leading up to the wedding, there was also an instance where she threatened to disown me and not come at all because I told her I didn’t want her friends, whom I’d never met, at the rehearsal dinner. That was on my birthday too.
33. Flashier than the Bride
My half brother’s mom wore a white beaded Versace dress that was at least four times as expensive and flashy as the bride’s gown (and made a point of telling everyone that she had an extra in the car in case she spilled on the first).
She audibly sobbed during the whole ceremony and made a babbling, hysterical, uninvited speech at the reception which mostly focused on her petty feelings and insecurities about her son marrying.
32. The Mother of Mischief
While my wife-to-be and I made all the plans and decided what WE wanted at OUR wedding, my mother-in-law made all these demands and pushed her own opinions on everything and anything. We just politely declined what she suggested if we didn’t like the idea.
We got an abusive phone call from my wife’s nasty brother two days out; he was screaming down the phone because my mother-in-law was claiming she was doing ALL the work planning our wedding and we are not helping her. We felt gutted that she started a massive family fight over lies right before our happiest day. We also had to invite all these “family friends” that we didn’t know and haven’t seen since just so my mother-in-law could be the star. It was incredible to be the groom at your own wedding and be thinking, “who the hell are all these people ??!!”
31. The Father of Lies
My old man was a religious nut if you ever met one. Don’t get talking to him or he will talk at you for two hours straight and not need a breath. I asked him if he could do a nice speech at the wedding and all he could do was laugh and say, ” ask me on the day and I’ll let you know.”
I was so angry that he couldn’t care to say something nice at his oldest son’s wedding that we canceled all the speeches, just so he wouldn’t get up and make it all about HIM, and talk for hours. He tells everyone to this day (20 years later), that I “wouldn’t let him speak,” as if I was the bad guy. Sorry for long post.
30. She Fulfilled Her Hoarding Tendencies
My mother-in-law gave us a personalized gift after the wedding. She was one of the few in-laws who actually came to the wedding, but we both wish she hadn’t, because she’s an extreme hoarder. This woman stole a bunch of stuff from the resort where we got married to put into a set of big, ugly shadow boxes to commemorate our wedding.
While everyone else was sitting down to dinner, she disappeared. This is apparently when she filled her huge hoarder purse with silverware, decorations, candle holders, towels, pieces of table centers, our cake topper, the bridesmaid’s flowers, a few room keys, and anything else that wasn’t nailed down. She presented us with these hulking, ugly boxes of larceny when we got home. They’re down in our basement somewhere, gathering dust. It feels like we’re hiding evidence.
29. She Dressed for a Funeral
My mother came dressed in all black….like she was going to a funeral. She even had this big black lace thing in her hair. A few people commented to me, “Oh my gosh, your mom is wearing all black…”
At some point in your wedding, you have to just let everything go and try to enjoy it for what it is. I stopped caring at a certain point.
28. A Burp for A Response
My mom didn’t show up for the rehearsal, but magically appeared when we were leaving the church for the rehearsal dinner. On my wedding day, I didn’t see her until I arrived at the church. She never showed up to help me get ready or help me into my dress. I called, I asked, but she wasn’t having it. I asked my brother where mom was. He told me they both had way too much to do in order to get ready and could not drop everything to cater to my whims.
Thankfully, I had my three closest friends who calmed me, helped me into my dress, and got me to the church. But honestly, what else did I expect from the woman who burped as a response to my engagement?
27. Before the Wedding
My parents were okay at the wedding, but the 10 months that proceeded it were hell. They stopped talking to me during part of it because, well, what they said at the time was that I wasn’t having it in my hometown, that it was because I was having it in my husband’s hometown. Then they said my father’s health wouldn’t allow him to travel there (180 miles), but it would be okay for him to travel to Disney World (1,000 miles).
They talked my grandmother into not coming; they made her feel that it would be too difficult for her to get there. She felt bad about that afterward. My father, years later, told my mother-in-law that the real reason was that he was sad to lose his “princess.” Yeah, right. I hadn’t been anything resembling a “princess” since I was 4. The real reason? In my opinion, it was simple: I was getting married. Not acceptable to them. But somewhere in there, they knew that saying so wasn’t going to work, so they had to make stuff up.
26. The State of Certain Body Parts
My father stood up and gave a toast about the state of my hymen. Basically he excused the controlling, invasive behavior of himself and my mother during our two years of dating because “at least she’s still pure.”
It wasn’t until two years later that he felt the need to “revoke” his approval of our wedding. Who the heck asked him anyway?
25. Suing Her for My Dress
I’m located in Virginia. I purchased a wedding gown that cost me over $11k, then paid substantially more in alterations. Over the weekend, my future mother-in-law decided to attempt to put on my dress and failed horribly. Long story short, it’s beyond repair and completely ruined. I also have reason to believe that she caused deliberate damage to the dress because of the specific areas that were torn.
My fiance doesn’t believe that we’re able to take her to court and recoup the money because, “it’s just a dress” and he thinks the cost of the dress doesn’t meet some financial threshold to sue her. I want to know if that’s true and if it would be feasible to file a police report on her because of the more deliberate damage. I know it’s just “a dress” but this goes beyond the dress.
24. Still Stewing Over the Wedding
When my husband and I got married, we decided to elope. We both have some major family dysfunction and decided we wanted to our wedding day to be happy and stress-free. A few months ago, my mother-in-law was on one of her typical rampages about how selfish my husband is (because he wouldn’t drop everything to go over to her house and show her how to use her printer, despite the fact that he’d gone with her to pick it out, set it up for her, and showed her how to use it before).
As she was listing all the ways in which he has been selfish in his lifetime, she brought up the fact that we didn’t have a wedding, AND SHE HAD ALREADY BOUGHT HER DRESS. Yep, that’s right. We are selfish because we didn’t have a wedding for her and she had already bought a dress. Oh, and did I mention we’ve been married almost six years? Six years she has been stewing over one stupid thing that we didn’t even know we did to offend her.
23. A Failed Attempt
We eloped, and came home to find that my husband’s parents had been talking crazy about us. They claimed we’d not told them we were getting married (not true, they gave us one of the rings and knew for weeks.)
They went as far as purchasing a sympathy card as if someone had died, and the plan was that they’d leave it in our mailbox- but that got thwarted because they chose to tell the lady at the store what they were doing, and she was appalled.
22. She Did Everything Wrong
My mother did everything wrong. She designed my dress for me, made the seamstress add extra inches in the waist and bust, and refused to pay for any changes once I tried it on and found that it fit like a sack. She had a huge fit and threatened to cancel everything four days before the wedding. In addition, of course, she fought with me daily over every detail, even though by the end of the first week I told her to do whatever she wanted and I would go along with it.
At the reception, she made a toast saying, “when he leaves you, your family will be there for you.” Sixteen years later, we’re still going strong. She kept most of my wedding pictures and left me with a dozen, if that. I only remember that last bit because a friend told me a few days later. I was so out of it at the time from stress (I also transferred to teach at a new school at this time, and it was in September) that I literally don’t remember any of it. I have no memories of my wedding. When my spouse and I hit 20 years, we’re renewing our vows. Not a huge ceremony, just a little thing and a dinner at a nice restaurant. But we’re both picking out our own wedding dresses and we’re having formal pictures done.
21. The Very Inappropriate Mom
My mother demanded to have the right to walk me down the aisle. She then selected a pale green strapless bridesmaid dress that was too tight on her, which she bought at a thrift store. We initially asked that she let us select a dress with her, explaining it was inappropriate. She refused and bought a blue dress that had stains from another thrift store, and insisted she’d been to all the department stores and they had nothing in her size. We had told her that we were looking to find a minister for our ceremony, and whether she’d walk me at all would depend on that. We had actually decided I’d be standing from the outset with the minister. She asked us every time we saw her about the minister search and nothing else, and changed the subject to that each time we discussed any other details with her, in a very transparent manner.
Eventually, we told her the actual plan, and several fights later, she acquiesced and we went on without issue, though she still wore the stained blue dress. But three months after our wedding–and after several polite, enjoyable visits–she refused to see me for my birthday, saying, “I don’t feel like celebrating your birthday” and refused to let dad see me either. We had some discussions and got into therapy after I waited two months to see them at all. My dad and I were always close and once therapy started I decided I was seeing him on my own whether she liked it or not. We had lunch every week from then on. He died that July on his birthday.
20. Suck It, Mom
My mom complained and complained about me getting married, and when the day came, it was wonderful to be able to have so many other people who loved me distract me from her. My mom had an angry face for the whole day.
She didn’t talk to any of my husband’s family and claimed that my sister’s boyfriend was looking at my cleavage (I was completely covered from foot to neck). Too bad for her, I’m extremely happily married and couldn’t have a better life. Suck it, mom!
19. The No-Good Dad
At my brother’s wedding, my dad kept trying to insist that our mother, his ex-wife, and her family be excluded from the wedding. He then kept threatening to boycott the wedding – I finally told him that everyone, including his relatives, would actually be fine with that. He showed up late and inebriated to the ceremony, delaying everything.
He completely humiliated my brother (the groom) to his in-laws and friends’ parents with his immature behavior. Fortunately, my crack security team and I were able to send him off to his hotel early in the reception.
18. It Was An Awful Day
I’ve never wanted a wedding (in fact until I had met my husband I never even entertained the idea of marriage) and so, we got married by the magistrate. There was no proposal, it was a discussion where we decided to do it and a month later it was done. I didn’t want to tell my mother, but my husband suggested I should, as she would be hurt. It was a nightmare. I was accosted daily with many emails at work. She told me not to marry my husband because he didn’t buy me an engagement ring and said he “wasn’t doing it right.” She told family members I specifically asked her not to. She told her sister because when my cousin was married, we weren’t invited to her wedding. My mother told my aunt that, “she wasn’t invited” which caused tons of drama. My mother also told my grandmother after I told her not to and then guilted me into letting her have her there. My grandmother was mean the entire time. In the month between our decision to get married and the actual deed, I ended up not being able to speak to my mother, so she started bothering my husband instead. Anything I said no to she went to him trying to get another answer.
On the day, she showed up with flowers for me and earrings and a necklace she wanted me to wear. To an outsider, this may look nice and thoughtful, but it was pearls which she knew I hated and she never even asked me my input. She just said, “here, wear these” and gave them to me. I refused and she pouted the entire time. She only took two pictures with me and then proceeded to bark at me all day about, “get over there, I want a picture”. My grandmother screamed at me at the lunch, interrupting a conversation I was having with someone because someone wanted to do a toast. I had to compose myself mentally but it was the worst feeling. Overall the day was awful. My husband’s grandparents tried to schedule a nice dinner where they invited my mother and grandmother and they refused to go.
17. She Hated Her Wedding Day
I hated my wedding day! The cleaners who were responsible for steaming my gown got a small stain on it. My mom made a huge deal about this to EVERYONE who had ears so that she could look like the good mother who worked hard to get a stain out.
She also secretly set up Skype and a projector so that my brother could call me from Iraq and everyone could watch/see how sweet this was. I was mad because I have no relationship with him. She gets off to him being in the military and just wanted this interaction for herself. When I found out and said no, she acted like a toddler. About halfway through the wedding, I said screw it! I got drunk with my friends on the fabulous terrace we had set up and ignored my mom. I ended up having a good time but the majority of the day was full of unnecessary stress brought on by my mother.
16. Almost Everything Went Wrong
My mom found out that my dad was bringing his girlfriend so she brought a guy I’d never met before and insisted that he was included in the pictures. She had a meltdown because there were some forks laying on the table with the wedding cake, and wore an extremely low cut “beige” dress.
I still wish I had eloped. Instead, I let myself get bullied into marrying in the Southern Baptist church I grew up in. Not only was it not an attractive venue, which was the least of my concerns, but I associate that church with a lot of bad memories, to begin with. At least my marriage has worked out very well and that’s the important thing.
15. A Prom Dress to A Wedding
My friend’s mom showed up at her wedding in a champagne mermaid-cut dress. It looked like something a stereotypical cheerleader would have worn to prom.
My friend was very embarrassed, and even pulled me into the bathroom to vent for a bit, but she played it off for the sake of her special day.
14. Playing the Victim
I didn’t invite them. My dad would email me every now and again poking me with a stick, but my mom was ignoring me just as hard as I was her. Afterward, they both lashed out. My dad did it on Facebook, and my brother defended me. My dad then sent both of us a long email about what a victim he was and he just can’t understand where all of our anger is coming from and suggesting that we go to therapy because we have so many issues.
In my mom’s case, she sent me a beautiful congrats card with a handwritten letter inside saying that I wasn’t part of the family anymore along with some other weirdness like: “It was a pleasure having you in our home as a child.”
13. She Thought She Was the Photographer
Among other things, my mother spent the entire time interrupting private and tender moments with her camera. She fancies herself a photographer and thus that allowed her to barge in wherever she wanted. A few of the more annoying things she did included interrupting me and my maid of honor while we were getting dressed. I pushed her out of the bathroom and she took photos through the crack in the door. I also kicked her out of the prep room in the chapel, so she spent time taking photos of everyone and everything where the wedding was to take place, rather than getting to know her future family like everyone else was.
She interrupted the ceremony to take photos when I had hired my own professional photographer; he had to ask her to get out of his way. She spent the entire reception ignoring my husband’s parents. During the speeches, all you hear is the shutter closing on my mother’s camera and everybody was annoyed, as it was hard to hear the speeches. Then she gave me a CD of the entire day with all these photos and said I should give one to my in-laws so they could get to know me and my family. Several of my new family told my husband later they now understood why I was a little weird if that was what I was raised with. I still wish I’d had the chutzpah to flip her off in some of those photos.
12. She Made It Her Moment
My mother told me that her mother (my grandmother) came to her wedding dressed in all white. It’s probably not such a big deal these days but back then, ONLY the bride wore white.
So my mother was quite understandably upset because her own mother couldn’t let her have her day without trying to draw attention to herself.
11. Taking Precautions
I touched the idea of a wedding with my mom and she was such a hateful brat about the whole thing that we just said “screw it,” got married at the courthouse and didn’t tell anyone.
When she found out later, she tried to make me feel like crap about it because I didn’t include her. I wasn’t about to sink a ton of money into an event so she could act like an idiot and try to ruin it for me.
10. The Best Memer Friend
My friend was left at the altar by this woman because her mom opposed the marriage (the dude doesn’t make a lot of money) and she ended up letting him know the night before, leaving him to cancel everything and letting everyone know.
There was no way of letting EVERYONE KNOW that the wedding was canceled so I printed out a most interesting man meme that read: “I don’t always cancel weddings, but when I do, I do it with a meme” and glued it to the door of the place where the reception was supposed to take place. I ended up just spending the night with him and another friend with some beer and a bottle of tequila.
9. Really Dad?!
I was once at a wedding where the groom’s dad interrupted the wedding to ask the bride’s father whether or not she was truly a virgin.
Then he went on about how he didn’t know anything about the wedding and blah blah blah. It was truly weird and embarrassing.
8. Too Much from Mom
I went to a friend’s wedding and during the reception, his mother got up to do an impromptu speech. She said, “I can’t believe my son is marrying that horrible woman. She’s going to ruin his life.” The groom ripped the microphone out of her hand, then yelled at her to leave.
This was seven years ago and the couple is still married. For the record, the bride is not horrible, she’s actually quite lovely, and nothing like the mother said.
7. It Continued…
My friend (the groom) was getting married to this awful girl we all hated. They broke up during the rehearsal dinner after arguing about the order the groomsmen would stand-in. The wedding still happened the next day, even though they were “broken up.” We all showed up to the church, not knowing if the bride would show, or what would happen. She showed up, the pastor asked for the objections and her mom objected – she yelled something about how the groom is a piece of crap and isn’t welcome in her family. The mom left the church, and the dad and brother left after.
The bride was just standing there staring at the groom with a real smug look on her face and said, “I told you you should have put my brother second in line, instead of fifth.” The pastor didn’t know what to do, but just kinda kept on trucking and eventually, they’re married. They’re divorced now; they didn’t even make it a whole year.
6. The Warning
At one wedding, the bride’s mother stood up and objected. She said, “I love you, [groom], and I don’t want anyone else as a son-in-law,” then nervously laughed.
She continued with, “but my daughter is exactly like me, and I wouldn’t be able to let this wedding continue if I didn’t warn you about the mess we make out of the lives of people we love. Make sure you want this.” Then she sat back down.
5. Living in Regret
Before the ceremony on my parents’ wedding day, my mom’s future mother-in-law said to her something along the lines of, “It’s not too late, you don’t have to marry him. He’s selfish, he’s cruel and he’ll never change. You’re too good for him. You’ll still be family to us, even if you don’t marry him.” My mom was 20 and she didn’t listen.
They’re still together, decades later, but I think she often wishes she’d taken my granny’s advice. That’s fairly damning about my dad, huh? His mother (one of the most wonderful people I have ever had the luck to know) would probably have disowned him and adopted my mum if she could have.
4. Insensitive and Inappropriate
At my cousin’s wedding, the ceremony was quite elegant. Just as the pastor asked if anyone had objections to this marriage, my uncle (the bride’s father) stood in the front row where everyone could see him and proceeded to yell at and demean my cousin for getting pregnant before marriage.
She then burst into tears and ran into the bathroom for over an hour. After she calmed down, we finished the wedding and my uncle hasn’t talked to her since.
3. Wasn’t There Supposed to Be A Part…
My favorite cousin was getting married at this really beautiful location. Everything was going as planned, but as the exchanging of vows took place, my aunt shouted something no one in my family would ever forgive her for.
She said, “wasn’t there supposed to be a part where you could object?” My cousin asked her to be escorted out and they haven’t spoken since then. The rest of the wedding was fun, though.
2. Mothers Going At It
This was in the early 70s in semi-rural Washington state. My cousin was getting married, and my aunt and the mother of the groom did not get along well. During the ceremony, when the pastor got to the part about objecting, my aunt said something to my uncle. The groom’s mom jumped up and grabbed my aunt and they started going at it, all the way out the door and into the parking area.
They were separated, and everyone filed back into the barn, where the wedding continued. The best part, though, was when another one of my cousins simply walked into the woods after the wedding because that’s where he lived.
1. “I Object!”
I was the best man at a wedding and the groom’s older sister decided to play a joke; stood up and said “I object!” then started giggling. The groom’s mother, who was also her mother, stood up, slapped her, told her it was not an appropriate joke and told her to go home.
Everyone was shocked. The bride and groom were pissed. It took more than five minutes before the mother shut it down. Good thing the daughter didn’t slap back. The wedding really would have been ruined. This mother still refuses to talk to her daughter more than four years later.